{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1","title":"On Grief: A Podcast about Death","home_page_url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm","feed_url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/json","description":"On Grief: A Podcast about Death is an exploration of what the people closest to the dead and dying know about death that the average lay person is too scared to ask.","_fireside":{"subtitle":"We all die, but almost none of us talk about it","pubdate":"2020-03-19T11:00:00.000-04:00","explicit":true,"owner":"Karen Geier","image":"https://assets.fireside.fm/file/fireside-images/podcasts/images/9/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/cover.jpg?v=2"},"items":[{"id":"7f4e87f3-3eae-451f-a39a-7a879e94dee6","title":"Episode 117: Widows","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/117","content_text":"In this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nHow young widows are treated differently than older widows\nWhat strange things people say to you when you're a widow\nHow people often try to burnish a dead spouse instead of being realistic about their lives\nWhat taboos there are around dating again\nHow being a young widow changes how you parent\nAnd more.\n\n\nLost and Found can be found on the web: https://lostandfoundto.com/ and on instagram: @lostandfoundto","content_html":"

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Lost and Found can be found on the web: https://lostandfoundto.com/ and on instagram: @lostandfoundto

","summary":"Thank you to everyone who was patient during the hiatus. \r\n\r\nIn this episode, Shannon Culver, Alexie Landry, Janice Tsao, and Sarah Keast join me to discuss what life is like for widows, specifically young widows.","date_published":"2020-03-19T11:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/7f4e87f3-3eae-451f-a39a-7a879e94dee6.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":25613919,"duration_in_seconds":1067}]},{"id":"e920b5df-c250-4e80-a0c3-7d95dae607e7","title":"Episode 116: Complex Grief with Lindsay Joy Taylor","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/116","content_text":"In this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nTraumatic loss as an infant\nWhat people say to children when they lose parents\nThe perils of being high functioning while grieving\nWhen she knew she needed therapy\nHow to navigate therapy when your memories are scant\nHow she turned her pain into a new career\nAnd more...\n","content_html":"

In this episode, we discuss:

\n\n","summary":"Lindsay Joy Taylor of the Joyful Jewelry Box (https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheJoyfulJewelryBox) joins me to discuss her incredible story of managing grief.","date_published":"2020-01-30T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/e920b5df-c250-4e80-a0c3-7d95dae607e7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":24294213,"duration_in_seconds":1012}]},{"id":"563168c1-4590-4cd3-81e1-f0d755ad8eac","title":"Episode 115: Equine Learning","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/115","content_text":"In this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nThe neuroscience of why we bond with horses\nWhy Gail decided to change her life to work with horses\nWhat the primary benefits of Equine Learning are\nWho is an ideal candidate for Equine Learning\nWhat types of activities comprise Equine Learning\nWhat horses can teach us about grief\nAnd more...\n","content_html":"

In this episode, we discuss:

\n\n","summary":"Gail Carruthers from Skye Blue Acres (http://www.skyeblueacres.com) joins me to discuss how horses can help people through their grief.","date_published":"2020-01-23T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/563168c1-4590-4cd3-81e1-f0d755ad8eac.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":26897889,"duration_in_seconds":1120}]},{"id":"ee5d7aa7-6686-4703-8c04-0f9167a257cb","title":"Episode 114: Laurie Kilmartin","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/114","content_text":"Laurie Kilmartin joins me to discuss her experiences with hospice and the death of her father.\n\nIn this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nWhy she decided to write jokes about her dead dad\nHow her family reacted to her making jokes about the aburdity of death\nWhat you should make sure you do with your relatives while they're still alive\nWhat to do when you're drowning in a dead person's stuff\nWhat it's like watching the Oscars with your dead dad\nAnd more...\n","content_html":"

Laurie Kilmartin joins me to discuss her experiences with hospice and the death of her father.

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In this episode, we discuss:

\n\n","summary":"Comedian Laurie Kilmartin lost her dad to cancer and rather than grieve privately, she mounted a comedy show and later a book about her experiences.\r\n\r\nDead People Suck ISBN: 9781635650006 ","date_published":"2020-01-09T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/ee5d7aa7-6686-4703-8c04-0f9167a257cb.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":23866013,"duration_in_seconds":994}]},{"id":"84f4f195-32c2-4924-8b17-b48799065893","title":"Episode 113: Suicide","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/113","content_text":"In this episode we discuss:\n\n\nDoes everyone have suicidal ideation?\nHow do you know whether you're having a fleeting thought of suicide or it's something more \nHow to be a supportive family member, friend, partner to a person who is suffering suicidal ideation\nWhat can you do if you're a family member, friend, partner and you're concerned for a person suffering from suicidal ideation\nWhen is hospitalization recommended?\nShould you try to place an involuntary hold on a person who is suffering?\nAnd more...\n","content_html":"

In this episode we discuss:

\n\n","summary":"Content Warning: This entire episode is a frank discussion of suicide.\r\n\r\nSeth Amitin, LCSW joins me to discuss what we know about suicide, what the myths are surrounding suicide, and how grieving people who die by suicide is different.","date_published":"2019-12-19T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/84f4f195-32c2-4924-8b17-b48799065893.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":35767193,"duration_in_seconds":1117}]},{"id":"ea5a4a9f-0037-49e1-ab18-6837226e517e","title":"Episode 112: Death Doula","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/112","content_text":"In this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nWhat does a Death Doula Do?\nWhat kinds of things can you ask a Death Doula for?\nHow Death Doulas can help facilitate better communication around death\nWhat Death Doulas DON'T DO\nWhen you should engage a Death Doula\nHow can you become a Death Doula \nAnd much more....\n","content_html":"

In this episode, we discuss:

\n\n","summary":"Madeleine Domingue joins me to discuss what a Death Doula does, why you need one, and what myths still exist about the practice","date_published":"2019-12-12T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/ea5a4a9f-0037-49e1-ab18-6837226e517e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":32675967,"duration_in_seconds":1020}]},{"id":"ef1b9cfb-fb80-4f37-bfdb-bd86b1125220","title":"Episode 111: Funerary Traditions","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/111","content_text":"In this episode we discuss:\n\n\n The history of the Jewish Funeral in America\n What happens from the time a Jewish person dies to the funeral\n What makes Jewish funerals different from Protestant funerals\nWhat happens at the unveiling\n\nWhy Muslim bodies are prepared by volunteers\n\nWhat happens in the preparation of Muslims for burial\n\nWhat prayers are said at a funeral\n\nWhy there are no Quran passages on Islamic headstones\n\nWhat is the history of the Jazz Funeral?\n\nWhat to expect from the parade to the Repast\n\nHow did black communities band together to ensure their members received a proper funeral\n\nWhat is the ettiquette of a Jazz Funeral?\n\n\n\nAnd more...","content_html":"

In this episode we discuss:

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","summary":"Three guests join me to discuss Funerary Traditions: Rabbi Andy Kahn, a Rabbi from New York, Khadijah, a woman who volunteers to prepare Muslim women's bodies in the Greater Toronto Area, and David Kunian, Music Curator at the New Orleans Jazz Museum to discuss Funerary Traditions you might not be familiar with.","date_published":"2019-12-05T04:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/ef1b9cfb-fb80-4f37-bfdb-bd86b1125220.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":33246899,"duration_in_seconds":1038}]},{"id":"432d68b3-bd90-4fc5-8f02-3238eb6daad0","title":"Episode 110: EMDR with Dr. Roger Solomon","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/110","content_text":"What is EMDR? In this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nThe science behind this treatment\nWho can benefit from it\nWho is precluded from doing it\nWhat the phases of the treatment are\nWhat happens in a session\nWhat kind of results can people expect?\nAnd more...\n\n\nhttps://www.emdr.com/\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kl9GoXIzBzQ","content_html":"

What is EMDR? In this episode, we discuss:

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https://www.emdr.com/

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kl9GoXIzBzQ

","summary":"EMDR is touted as a cutting edge, highly effective treatment for many conditions, including PTSD and Grief. Dr Roger Solomon joins me to discuss what EMDR is. ","date_published":"2019-11-21T11:15:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/432d68b3-bd90-4fc5-8f02-3238eb6daad0.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":32818909,"duration_in_seconds":1025}]},{"id":"75cd0cbe-53ff-4242-aad0-58e2c7e8d43e","title":"Episode 109: Pet Grief Part Two","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/109","content_text":"In this episode we discuss:\n\n\nDifferent kinds of Pet Loss and why each has unique challenges\nDo pets miss their owners in a divorce?\nWhat can you do to actively move your grief forward\nWhy our bond with service animals complicates grief\nAm I crazy for throwing a pet funeral?\nAnd much more...\nSpecial Guest: Adam Clark.","content_html":"

In this episode we discuss:

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Special Guest: Adam Clark.

","summary":"Adam Clark, LCSW, AASW and founder of Head, Heart & Hooves Counseling (https://www.headhearthoovescounseling.com) joins me to delve deeper into Pet Grief from a clinical perspective.","date_published":"2019-11-14T11:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/75cd0cbe-53ff-4242-aad0-58e2c7e8d43e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":29680035,"duration_in_seconds":927}]},{"id":"0d7972bc-d78c-4322-96d5-cc80614841ba","title":"Episode 108: Pet Grief Part One","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/108","content_text":"Wendy Van De Poll, Certified End of Life and Pet Loss Grief Coach and Bestselling Author, joins me to discuss the tough topic of Pet Grief.\n\nIn this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nHow to mentally prepare for losing a pet\nShould you be present when your pet is euthanized\nWhy we still trivialize pet loss grief\nShould you get a new pet right away?\nShould you throw away all the items from your deceased pet?\nHow to talk to kids about Pet Grief\nAnd much more...\n","content_html":"

Wendy Van De Poll, Certified End of Life and Pet Loss Grief Coach and Bestselling Author, joins me to discuss the tough topic of Pet Grief.

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In this episode, we discuss:

\n\n","summary":"Wendy Van De Poll, from the Center for Pet Loss Grief https://centerforpetlossgrief.com/ joins me to discuss how we have overlooked the impact of Pet Loss Grief far too long.","date_published":"2019-11-07T11:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/0d7972bc-d78c-4322-96d5-cc80614841ba.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":33722537,"duration_in_seconds":1053}]},{"id":"dfea6d57-2709-480a-b237-119ba4114e44","title":"Episode 107: The Right to Die With Exit International's Philip Nitschke","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/107","content_text":"While most of us respect that the terminally ill or very old might want to exercise their right to die, not many have come around on the idea that any adult with mental capacity should have the right to end their life on their own terms.\n\nPhilip Nitschke joins me to explain why Exit International provides information and works to move legislation past a medicalized model to bring this crucial right to more people.\n\n\n In this episode, we discuss:\n Societal taboos around this topic\n The interest by the general public in understanding this right\n What are the new trends in this area\n Why people who want to exercise this right need a plan in place\n What a SARCO pod is\n And much more...\n\n\nExit International\n\nThe SARCO pod video ","content_html":"

While most of us respect that the terminally ill or very old might want to exercise their right to die, not many have come around on the idea that any adult with mental capacity should have the right to end their life on their own terms.

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Philip Nitschke joins me to explain why Exit International provides information and works to move legislation past a medicalized model to bring this crucial right to more people.

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Exit International

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The SARCO pod video

","summary":"While most of us respect that the terminally ill or very old might want to exercise their right to die, not many have come around on the idea that any adult with mental capacity should have the right to end their life on their own terms.\r\nPhilip Nitschke joins me to explain why Exit International provides information and works to move legislation past a medicalized model to bring this crucial right to more people.","date_published":"2019-10-31T11:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/dfea6d57-2709-480a-b237-119ba4114e44.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":31772339,"duration_in_seconds":992}]},{"id":"ca9991fb-668d-48eb-b9dd-519c4f71633d","title":"Episode 106: Child Grief","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/106","content_text":"In this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nHow to prepare children if someone they know is going to die soon\nHow to help children understand what death is before it happens in the family\nHow to recognize normal child grief patterns\nWhen to know if a child's grief is more complicated\nHow do other factors (such as the media, divorce, or animal deaths) complicate child grief\nWhat to never say to children who are grieving\nAnd much more...\nSpecial Guest: Andrea Warnick.","content_html":"

In this episode, we discuss:

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Special Guest: Andrea Warnick.

","summary":"What should we know about the way children grieve to make us better at helping them cope? Andrea Warnick, licensed psychotherapist with a specialty in Child Grief, joins me to discuss.\r\n\r\nhttps://andreawarnick.com/","date_published":"2019-10-24T10:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/ca9991fb-668d-48eb-b9dd-519c4f71633d.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":35011957,"duration_in_seconds":1078}]},{"id":"2a6ce416-2612-4557-a445-883d77a1869f","title":"Episode 105: Caitlin Doughty","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/105","content_text":"Caitlin Doughty answers questions from kids and myself alike. We discuss:\n\n\nWhat are the legalities of cannibalism?\nWill animals dig up my body if I'm not buried deeply enough?\nCan you be cremated on a funeral pyre in America?\nCan you still be buried alive?\nAnd many more...\nSpecial Guest: Caitlin Doughty.","content_html":"

Caitlin Doughty answers questions from kids and myself alike. We discuss:

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Special Guest: Caitlin Doughty.

","summary":"Author and Funeral Director and host of Ask A Mortician Caitlin Doughty joins me to talk about her book Will My Cat Eat My Eyeballs? (ISBN 039365270X) and other things she has learned about death and dying in her career.","date_published":"2019-10-17T04:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/2a6ce416-2612-4557-a445-883d77a1869f.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":33103957,"duration_in_seconds":1034}]},{"id":"6dd7a3d8-0e9e-4da5-8715-561c9f010b99","title":"Episode 104: Adam Cayton-Holland","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/104","content_text":"CONTENT WARNING: EPISODE CONTAINS FRANK DISCUSSION OF SUICIDE.\n\nIn this episode, Adam Cayton-Holland talks about the death by suicide of his younger sister right when his career was about to take off. \n\nIn this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nWhat his family was like\nHow his sister Lydia's mental health changed\nWhat the family did to intervene with Lydia\nHow Adam's grief manifested\nWhat Adam learned about his family's grief\nWhat kind of therapy worked for him\nAnd more...\nSpecial Guest: Adam Cayton-Holland.","content_html":"

CONTENT WARNING: EPISODE CONTAINS FRANK DISCUSSION OF SUICIDE.

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In this episode, Adam Cayton-Holland talks about the death by suicide of his younger sister right when his career was about to take off.

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In this episode, we discuss:

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Special Guest: Adam Cayton-Holland.

","summary":"Comedian Adam Cayton-Holland joins me to discuss his book and one man show Tragedy Plus Time: A Tragi-Comic Memoir (ISBN 1501170163) and how the sudden death of his sister changed his life","date_published":"2019-10-10T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/6dd7a3d8-0e9e-4da5-8715-561c9f010b99.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":91000501,"duration_in_seconds":2843}]},{"id":"78b05998-3d1d-46a7-a837-1156375ef044","title":"Episode 103: History of Grief","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/103","content_text":"Brandy Schillace and I discuss:\n\n\nWhat we know about grief from what's available in recorded history\nWhat the Reformation did that changed the way we view the dead\nHow the Victorians turned even death into a commercial endeavour and an opportunity for class markers\nHow the traditional American way of mourning came to be\nWhat social media is doing to shape our way of grieving\nAnd more...\n\n\nBrandy Schillace's website\nBuy Death's Summer Coat hereSpecial Guest: Brandy Schillace.","content_html":"

Brandy Schillace and I discuss:

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Brandy Schillace's website
\nBuy Death's Summer Coat here

Special Guest: Brandy Schillace.

","summary":"Author Brandy Schillace (Death's Summer Coat - ISBN 1681773244 ) joins me to discuss the history of the Western way of grieving. ","date_published":"2019-10-03T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/78b05998-3d1d-46a7-a837-1156375ef044.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":32057387,"duration_in_seconds":1001}]},{"id":"3e9f56f2-3458-4848-acdc-185c01ecf220","title":"Episode 102: Mortician","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/102","content_text":"Mortician and Funeral Director Erin Bodishbaugh explains what being a mortician is like.\n\nIn this episode, we discuss:\n\n\nWhat kinds of people become morticians\nWhy mortician school weeds out the goths\nWhat an average day at work is like\nWhat are the misconceptions about dead bodies\nWhat surprises they've had on the job\nEverything you've ever been curious about with cremation\nWhat requests they've had to turn down\nWhat the best eulogy they've ever witnessed was like\nAnd more...\nSpecial Guest: Erin Bodishbaugh.","content_html":"

Mortician and Funeral Director Erin Bodishbaugh explains what being a mortician is like.

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In this episode, we discuss:

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Special Guest: Erin Bodishbaugh.

","summary":"***UNLOCKED FULL EPISODE. Visit patreon.com/ongriefpod to support the podcast and unlock full episodes in the future.*** \r\n\r\nIn this episode, I ask Mortician and Funeral Director Erin Bodishbaugh all the questions about their job everyone's afraid to ask","date_published":"2019-09-26T06:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/3e9f56f2-3458-4848-acdc-185c01ecf220.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":94769655,"duration_in_seconds":3948}]},{"id":"965d6f49-b0ed-4f76-86eb-ae36104a39c0","title":"Episode 101: I Die","url":"https://ongrief.fireside.fm/101","content_text":"Please note: this episode is not intended to endorse the use of substances that are illegal.\n\nIn this episode, we explore what it is like to die. I discuss this with Neurosurgeon and Bestselling Author Dr. Eben Alexander (The Map of Heaven) who tells me about his Near Death Experience.\n\nI also discuss how we can simulate a Near Death Experience through a drug called 5-MeO DMT (\"The toad\" or \"Bufo\") with Hilary Agro, a researcher and anthropologist who studies psychedelics, and I take 5-MeO DMT and describe my induced Near Death Experience.\n\nPlease note that for legal reasons, I am unable to discuss sourcing of 5-MeO DMTSpecial Guests: Dr. Eben Alexander and Hilary Agro.","content_html":"

Please note: this episode is not intended to endorse the use of substances that are illegal.

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In this episode, we explore what it is like to die. I discuss this with Neurosurgeon and Bestselling Author Dr. Eben Alexander (The Map of Heaven) who tells me about his Near Death Experience.

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I also discuss how we can simulate a Near Death Experience through a drug called 5-MeO DMT ("The toad" or "Bufo") with Hilary Agro, a researcher and anthropologist who studies psychedelics, and I take 5-MeO DMT and describe my induced Near Death Experience.

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Please note that for legal reasons, I am unable to discuss sourcing of 5-MeO DMT

Special Guests: Dr. Eben Alexander and Hilary Agro.

","summary":"**UNLOCKED FULL EPISODE*** For more free episodes, visit Patreon.com/ongriefpod \r\n\r\nTo understand death, we have to ask people who have been there what it's like. I asked Dr. Eben Alexander, a Neurosurgeon and Near Death Experiencer to tell me what happened to him.\r\n\r\nI also induce a Near Death Experience with the help of a substance called 5-MeO DMT.","date_published":"2019-08-23T11:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/957febcc-1e43-4437-b55b-18046c56f8d0/965d6f49-b0ed-4f76-86eb-ae36104a39c0.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":98966803,"duration_in_seconds":3092}]}]}